20 Things I Should Have Known at 20

1. The world is trying to keep you stupid. From bank fees to interest rates to miracle diets, people who are not educated are easier to get money from and easier to lead. Educate yourself as much as possible for wealth, independence, and happiness.
2. Do not have faith in institutions to educate you. By the time they build the curriculum, it’s likely that the system is outdated– sometimes utterly broken. You both learn and get respect from people worth getting it from by leading and doing, not by following.
3. Read as much as you can. Learn to speed read with high retention.Emerson Spartz taught me this while I was at a Summit Series event. If he reads 2-3 books a week, you can read one.
4. Connect with everyone, all the time. Be genuine about it. Learn to find something you like in each person, and then speak to that thing.
5. Don’t waste time being shy. Shyness is the belief that your emotions should be the arbitrators of your decision making process when the opposite is actually true.
6. If you feel weird about something during a relationship, that’s usually what you end up breaking up over.
7. Have as much contact as possible with older people. Personally, I met people at Podcamps. My friend Greg, at the age of 13, met his first future employer sitting next to him on a plane. The reason this is so valuable is because people your age don’t usually have the decision-making ability to help you very much. Also they know almost everything you will learn later, so ask them.
8. Find people that are cooler than you and hang out with them too. This and the corollary are both important: “don’t attempt to be average inside your group. Continuously attempt to be cooler than them (by doing cooler things, being more laid back, accepting, ambitious, etc.).”
9. You will become more conservative over time. This is just a fact. Those you surround yourself with create a kind of “bubble” that pushes you to support the status quo. For this reason, you need to do your craziest stuff NOW. Later on, you’ll become too afraid. Trust me.
10. Reduce all expenses as much as possible. I mean it. This creates a safety net that will allow you to do the crazier shit I mentioned above
11. Instead of getting status through objects (which provide only temporary boosts), do it through experiences. In other words, a trip to Paris is a better choice than a new wardrobe. Studies show this also boosts happiness.
12. While you are living on the cheap, solve the money problem. Use the internet, because it’s like a cool little machine that helps you do your bidding. If you are currently living paycheck to paycheck, extend that to three weeks instead of two. Then, as you get better, you can think a month ahead, then three months, then six, and finally a year ahead. (The goal is to get to a point where you are thinking 5 years ahead.)
13. Learn to program.
14. Get a six-pack (or get thin, whatever your goal is) while you are young. Your hormones are in a better place to help you do this at a younger age. Don’t waste this opportunity, trust me.15. Learn to cook. This will make everything much easier and it turns food from a chore + expensive habit into a pleasant + frugal one. I’m a big Jamie Oliver fan, but whatever you like is fine
16. Sleep well. This and cooking will help with the six pack. If you think “I can sleep when I’m dead” or “I have too much to do to sleep,” I have news for you: you are INEFFICIENT, and sleep deprivation isn’t helping.
17. Get a reminder app for everything. Do not trust your own brain for your memory. Do not trust it for what you “feel like” you should be doing. Trust only the reminder app. I use RE.minder and Action Method.
18. Choose something huge to do, as well as allowing the waves of opportunity to help you along. If you don’t set goals, some stuff may happen, but if you do choose, lots more will.
19. Get known for one thing. Spend like 5 years doing it instead of flopping around all over the place. If you want to shift afterwards, go ahead. Like I said, choose something.
20. Don’t try to “fix” anyone. Instead, look for someone who isn’t broken.

Blindfold

I Was Told to Write an About Me and This is What Happened

Each time I’m asked to tell about myself, I find myself starting the same way:

 “My name is Kelsey and I’m nineteen..”

but what I’d really like to say is:

“My name means island of the ships but once

I found a translation that said I’m a burning shipwreck-

not a burning ship but a ship that has caught fire

after the wreckage and well, I’d say that’s more fitting.”

I’ve learned that people don’t have time for about me’s.

They need two things: a name and an indication you’re someone special.

The doctors, they want facts not details.

“I broke my leg when I was three, it’s a funny story actually-“

The right or the left?

Conversation over.

The teachers, they want interests, hobbies.

You’re sad, yes, but what do you like to do?

The adults are a spew of questions.

What school do you go to? What classes are you taking?

What do you plan on becoming? Got a boyfriend?

No, stop.

People my own age are the worst.

“I’m planning on an English degree with a concentration in creative writing.”

Yeah, aren’t we all. So how many times have you, you know,

done it?

I’m pulled apart, my interests travelling highway 2

my goals at a stop light at traffic hour,

my medical history on a billboard for the world to see.

But what about me?

Where’s the chance to say, “I hang on to fistfuls of poetry like loose change in my pockets,

and I keep waiting for the day that the world turns upside down, so I can swim with the stars.

I’m not afraid of darkness, it’s a loneliness I can empathize with it.

It’s the blackholes like cigarette burns inside of me that get troublesome.

I walk through graveyards and read the dashes between years, each a story I’ll never know. Sometimes I create my own.”

No wonder none of us know who we are anymore.

Kelsey Danielle, 

16 steps to improve your body image

• 1. Remove unhealthy conditioning. Get rid of fashion magazines, change the channel during commercial breaks, etc.
• 2. Replace with healthy conditioning. Hang pictures of beautiful women with diverse body types, follow body positive blogs, etc.
• 3. GET NAKED. Spend some time getting comfortable with your body.
• 4. Don't be so critical of others. This only breeds criticism in ourselves. Accept others, accept yourself.
• 5. Don't allow yourself to think negative thoughts. Pretend you love yourself, and eventually you will.
• 6. Accept compliments. Learn to just say, "Thank you," rather than brushing them off.
• 7. Compliment yourself. purposefully list the things that you like about yourself.
• 8. TAKE LOTS OF SELFIES, UNTIL YOU LOVE THEM ALL.
• 9. Wear the clothes that make you feel beautiful. Regardless of what others think.
• 10. Do your hair and makeup the way that YOU like.
• 11. Spend some time alone doing the things that you like to do.
• 12. Treat yourself to something nice.
• 13. Wear sexy underwear even if no one else will see them.
• 14. Surround yourself with people who build you up.
• 15. Confront the people who tear you down, and cut them out of your life.
• 16. Always ask yourself "Why do I feel this way? Who says this isn't beautiful?"

Beauty is relative, but for me it is a state of being. A wonderful personality, having pure intentions, clean thoughts, someone who generates optimism and treats their surroundings the way they’d like to be treated. Offers their companionship with nothing in return. Has unconditional love for those they hold close to their heart. I have yet to reach that

You Attract........

You attract what you are. Your surroundings influence your life greatly on a daily basis. Do not emulate individuals who lack aspirations to succeed; if success is what you are after. How you choose to live your life affects you, — and solely you. Be the change you’d like to see in the world. know that people will always gravitate to those who share mutual interests. you attract people by the qualities you display. you keep them with the qualities you posses. acquire an optimistic mentally, because you are mindful that negative energy is wasted energy

-Bon Vivant

I don't, I am not but I am..

not all my bags or clothes are well branded.

My shoes? are neither Chanel nor Katespade.

But, i cover my body with Style.

I don't have expensive make up stuff.

I am not smart putting those chemical things to my face.

Neither my skin face nor body are fair-complexioned.

I am really proud with my sun-kissed skin.

I nourish them with some organic skin-care products;

to preserve these amazing things that God has been given to me.

I feel great about my skin without make up on my face.

it looks effortlessly Beauty. Naturally Glowing.

Acne? Fatness? HairFall? Too Skinny?

Dead skin cell? Oily Skin? Blemished face?

Strecth Marks? Cellulite?

Of course, i have one of those kind damn problem on me!

that's a phase of life which proving you are a HUMAN BEING, GROWING, AND ALIVE.

Know your self and value.

Beauty is not supposed to be a PAIN things.

Technology is important.

I using some of social media. of course i do, with some reason and purpose! 

to stay connected with the news, family, friends, and sometimes to express my self.

but honestly i am not really smart at sharing with them.

I don't have the best smartphone.

I don't follow my ego to buy pricey Tab, Note or whatever it called.

I sometimes wonder why people trying so hard to impress and break themselves to afford these stuff rather than to connect with the creature, societies and the nature.

Can't you see around or maybe look down? 

There's a lot of malnourished childern, hunger mother, or maybe a homeless guy need your hand. 

I am not so popular girl in the school or my university.

I am NOT an everybody's bestfriend kind of person.

BUT I HAVE A CHARACTER

I have perfectly unperfect life.

Family, Friends, Boyfriends, Ex-boyfriend, Frenemy or so whatever.

I have problems, i have secrets, i have past (Good and Dark).

that's what life taught and change us. 

Some for better or maybe worse.

YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE

GO FIND THE REASON WHY GOD GIVES YOU A CHANCE TO BREATH.

Sixteen Small Step to Happiness

1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5.30am.
go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise
2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. 
wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable. 
3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.
4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast.
 fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else. 
5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. 
roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, 
then try drinking it twice.
7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, 
including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. 
no detail is too small.
8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine.
put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash.
make your bed in full.
9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.
10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. 
wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth.
lather your whole body in moisturiser, 
get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
11. push yourself to go for a walk. 
take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. 
smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. 
bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. 
realise you can learn from your dog.
12. message old friends with personal jokes. 
reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.
14. think long and hard about what interests you. 
crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette?
 find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything. 
15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with.
let cars merge into your lane when driving.
pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. 
challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. 
walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. 
ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. 
open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.